Plugged In and Dating

Ladies and Gents!

      I present to you a new blog topic today that involves something I hate. Dating. Now, I don't hate dating per say, I just truly hate the amount of time and energy that goes into finding someone to date. I honestly do not know how people meet in the real world anymore. I remember it used to be so much easier to meet people. Your friends would throw parties and you would see someone across the room and boom, there you go. Even sitting in class you'd see a cute person and make an effort to go and ask for random help you probably didn't need (thanks Cady Heron). Well, now the entire world is plugged in and finding something on an app has become the norm. But, you know what actually sucks... even when someone is available right at your finger tips it's still hard to find a "dateable" person. UGH!!

      Let's go through all the actual dating sites a person can have. The ones I have used/ have been using are Tinder, Bumble, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid, JSwipe, Coffee Meets Bagel, and my new personal favorite Hatr. That's like what, 7 sites you can be signed up to and still not find someone decent. That's just gross. To be fair, I haven't really been using any of them because I am concentrating on other aspects of my life at the moment. Granted, I do enjoy meeting people and going out (even though my social anxieties and awkwardness tell me otherwise). I also just enjoy the thrill of swiping and basically judging people based on their pictures and the way they describe themselves (that is definitely the evil bitch in me always begging to come out). But, my most favorite part is trolling anyone who sends me weird messages. I get a rise out of people's reactions and watching them respond is the funniest thing I have ever seen. Most people have no idea how to react and their commentary gives me a good chuckle.

      Maybe that's why I can't find a good date? I mainly spend my time trolling on these sites instead of actually trying to find someone to date. To be fair, half of them deserve it. Who sends messages like "I want to bury my face in your a** and make you gag on these ba***". They deserve to be messed with because you do not talk to anyone, let alone women like that! This is why dating can be so hard on all these apps. Either some people take it seriously and you end up not connecting, or some just use it to boost their confidence and hookup. Where are all the real people who are ready to take the step forward and have a real relationship? Apparently not on any of the sites I'm using or willing to even pay for.

      Anyway, I can post those screenshots at some point and write a whole new post about witty retorts! Who would want to see that? Let me know because I have some good ones! I will keep you guys updated as I go because there will be some fun adventures in this one.

Love,
 Jess

A Year In The Life

Hello Again Bloggerland,

      I apologize for not following through with my blogging. Its been one of the best/ worst years of my life. My relationship of about 2 years has fallen apart and I am single for the first time in a long time. You know what though, after truly reflecting and thinking about everything, I realized that my ex was probably the worst person I could have been with. Does being single suck? Yes, yes it does. Does being in an unhealthy relationship with someone suck more? YES! YES IT DOES. I never realized it before (because you don't see it from the inside and you never listen to anyone), but it was not the best thing for me. I truly believed that my ex was the love of my life and as much as you love someone, sometimes you just have to let go because its not working. Now, my relationship wasn't a completely terrible one, but it stopped moving forward and we both need to move on. Guess what bloggerland, I learned that I am so much more better off without him! YAY!

      I say this because I never realized how much I denied myself from doing when I was with him. There were times when I wanted to do things and I always felt I couldn't do it without him or I had to ask for permission. Now that I am single and dating, I realize these are WARNING SINGS. Please please please never deny your own happiness over someone who will gladly walk all over you. Its terrible. When I started to venture out on my own and do things I have wanted to do, it was fantastic! The things I saw and the people I met, the fun I had! IT WAS FREAKING GREAT! Here's a list of all the things that I did when I realized that I needed to live my life to the fullest:

• went to Emo Night every month
• finally got my passport
• actually learned how to build furniture myself
• went to the gym for my own benefit and not someone else's
• went to as many shows as possible
• watched all those movies we were saving for "us"
• finished every series I wanted to watch without any breaks
• went to the city as often as possible
• finally felt comfortable in my own body
• got that tattoo I have been wanting for years
• FINALLY WENT TO ISRAEL ON BIRTHRIGHT!

    These adventures made my year great. Were there times when I broke down and really missed him? Yes, but who doesn't experience that. Were there terrible dates in the mix? OF COURSE! But that's a topic for a different day. Its been quite an adventurous year, and its not even over! Still have about three months left to make even more memories!! Don't worry, I will try to keep writing because realistically it helps soothe my mind. Other than that, ta ta for now!

Love, 

 Jess

Blogging!

Hello everyone of bloggerland!
 It's me again and this time I am actually going to stick to writing in my blog much more than I have before. I have decided to change the topic to trying things because, I try everything. I have started experimenting with my life and realized there are so many things to try out there. Everyone has a blog out there and I wanted to start my own. I want to show people that someone who is not a makeup artist can try making a makeup tutorial that looks amazing. I want to show the person who has never picked up a frying pan can actually cook a recipe off of the internet. I want to show the person who wants to cosplay that they can even if they have never even tried before. Everyone is capable of trying something extraordinary at least once and I believe in myself to try. I enjoy creating, laughing, and living and I want you readers to enjoy what I am trying even if I fail. It doesn't matter the outcome, all that matters is that I tried. If anyone has any suggestions of things they find and want me to try, I will, and hopefully soon I will be able to link videos to these posts! Thank you lovelies and see you soon! For now, please enjoy this picture of myself and my dog <3